Being a parent isn’t easy, it requires so much from us. It is ENDLESS, tiring and so Crazy and Beautiful ALL at once. From the time your baby is born, they need Mom and Dad more than anything. We as parents begin a new chapter in our own Book of Life. When you become a parent, it is scary, exciting, joyful, sweet, bliss and super exhausting. It is a time in your life where you truly grasp what unconditional LOVE is for another human, you want to do your best for them every second. LOVE in the strongest form of LIFE, it is Simply Magical. It is a moment you become Super Human to ensure your child is given the best of the best for the journey ahead.
You know, the magic continues as they grow. Every stage requires different hats we need to wear as parents; the loving parent, the fun parent, the disciplinary parent, the silly parent and the list goes on. What I am learning is that my most important job is to teach my children to be respectful, kind, humble, to be a leader and to be Human in a world that has so much to offer. Interestingly enough, they are also teaching me the simple things we sometimes forget, the simple act of LOVE that is the most important to them. Their eyes truly light up when we are sharing a moment together, when we are connecting with them and teaching them something. A simple story from my childhood captivates them so much, they feel proud or sometimes laugh because they just think it is silly.
Kids also need to understand that We Are Only Human. Like most parents, there are some days and weeks that life is so hard, so fast, so stressful, head spinning, it is one thing after another, things are not in order, house is a mess and you have to breathe and just do what you can. That is all part of the magic. I used to be a perfectionist and I am not going to lie, I enjoy having a picture perfect clean house but that does not exist anymore unless it is planned. Today, the control I had of having everything picture perfect has left my heart, body and soul for the sake of my children and my own sanity. I will be honest, if you just show up at my house unannounced what you will get is a beautiful mess of love, toys, I will make you some coffee to get us through the mess and the rest is a surprise. I just do what I can and I move on these days, that is my life with three kids. It is not worth it sometimes, the anxiety and stress. You can only do what you can and you need to move on. I simply do not dwell on the mess anymore. I am teaching my kids to help and clean after themselves but it is not perfect. It is still a work in progress and most days I just do what I can. We need to teach our children that mommy and daddy have a lot of responsibilities and sometimes we cannot do it all. We need to prioritize, some things need to be more important than others. To our children we are SuperMOM and SuperDAD but it is important that they also understand that We Are Only Human.
I know there are many moments in life that we really do feel SUPER Human, maybe some of you feel like this most days or everyday, you feel you have no other option but to be Super Human. I do, I get it. We can’t call out sick, that is a rarity or a case of your so sick you can’t get out of bed. For many parents, most days we are literally checking off all our to do’s and just feeling great about how efficient we are. I got so much done today, that is what I say to myself on my good days. The list of things that need to get done for our kids, family, jobs, pets, house, cooking and loved ones. It is ENDLESS. I just say to myself, I Can Do It. I do it for my kids, we do it for our jobs, our husbands, our loved ones, we do it because we know WE CAN DO IT.
Moms and Dads, to our children we will always be Super Human, however it is up to us to teach them that not everyday is perfect that we are not perfect, that we need to work on ourselves everyday. Its okay that sometimes we need a break, not everyday must we be busy or have a picture perfect day. Moms and Dads, take a step back and breathe, embrace the simple things in life.
From one busy and tired Mom and Dad to another, take some time for you, do something you love and enjoy the moment, We Are Only Human.
I love the song Human by Christina Perri, I wanted to share the video, play it below.
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Diana Duran
